April is Alcohol Awareness Month and it’s the perfect time to sit your teen down and talk about the dangers of underage drinking.
Parents Do Make a Difference
Despite how you may feel sometimes, research shows that parents are an important influence on whether or not their son or daughter chooses to drink alcohol.
Kids do care about their parents’ opinions. They tend to respond well to a positive parenting style. In contrast, many studies show that authoritarian, overprotective, and permissive parenting can lead to negative outcomes.
Talking So Kids Will Listen
The following strategies will help you communicate most effectively:
- Listen. Allow your child to speak without interruption. Listen to what he or she says.
- Speak with respect and appreciation. Your child still values your approval.
- Communicate directly. Pick a time to speak when you can have each other’s undivided attention.
- Emphasize common goals. Remind your child that you are on their side.
- Avoid communication “stoppers.” These are single statements that shut down any response.
- Recognize conflict is natural. We all have different beliefs and values; therefore disagreement is a natural thing.
- Agree to step away. Agree to temporarily stop talking if things don’t go well.
- Use appropriate body language. How you position yourself physically while you
- talk can send important messages about your attitudes or express something you are
- not trying to convey.
- Avoid debate. If you find yourself debating, try suggesting that you both approach matters from a different angle.
April 21st is the National Day to talk with your kids and teens about alcohol.
Use the Resources from MADD to make that conversation a starting point for ongoing and deliberate talks that are proven to reduce your child or teen’s chance of drinking before 21. Have a potentially lifesaving conversation today.
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